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Sherri Vita Mojica's avatar

A poem to all missed mothers💕 thanks

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Rebecca Kalin's avatar

Honestly, this story deeply touches my heart.

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Rebecca Kalin's avatar

Thank you, SVM. What a sweet thing thing to say.

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A Leigh's avatar

oh becky i’m crying. of course you were a good daughter. the best of kind. devoted half-wild and not a copy of anyone.

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Rebecca Kalin's avatar

Oh, thank you. I was probably all you say and at least half-wild.

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Barbara Bash's avatar

So good to take in this deeper story of what forged your mom into who she was. I recall her being someone who did not hold a grunge. Glad to have touched and felt her alive path.

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Rebecca Kalin's avatar

Thank you, Barbara! From a stifling beginning, she made a remarkable life for herself. It's almost impossible to find a picture of her as an adult in which she is not smiling. I wish I had asked more questions.

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Frederick Fullerton's avatar

Beautifully and profoundly written. Thanks for sharing.

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Rebecca Kalin's avatar

Thank you, Frederick. She was a remarkable person. You will get to know her better. If you want to read a bit about my father go to my first four posts at: www.instagram.com/rebecca100words/ He was truly one-of-a-kind.

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Verna Gillis's avatar

My mother wasn’t born here and I heard no prom stories growing up. I never was invited to a prom. My niece Sarah went to her prom with a group of friends. Enlightened. No one had to invite her. Is it still a thing?

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Rebecca Kalin's avatar

I didn't go to a prom either. It was Vietnam War protest time. Not prom time. Nila went with her best friend and 5 other girls. Year 2000 Stuyvesant. I think it is still a thing today but it's often more about statement, e.g., gender, than conformity.

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MaryLouise Kalin's avatar

Such a rare and wonderful woman she was, and you've inherited so much of her courage.

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Rebecca Kalin's avatar

That she was.

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Joan Marlow Golan's avatar

You were definitely a good daughter, Bex--the best!

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Rebecca Kalin's avatar

I hope so. (Thanks for your confidence!)

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Verna Gillis's avatar

Oklahoma - I grew up on the musical so that was alwys my idea od the place. I still remember all the words,

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Rebecca Kalin's avatar

Not so sure about the state but the song is swell!

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Julie Thompson-Dobkin's avatar

Beautiful story… currently traveling cross country and in Oklahoma. Feel

a tad like I am in a foreign land but the folks kind and keep their space. I am definitely the outsider and don’t fit in but consuming the landscape and sunset.

My mom was sent off to her aunt’s from the farm of Minnesota. The dynamics a mystery but definitely impacting her life!

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Rebecca Kalin's avatar

Ha! What serendipity! Though maybe not "better", OK must be at least more diverse as the only three people i know there now are gay. Take care!

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